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I don’t visit graves…

… but I do think about those I’ve lost. Today is my godmother’s birthday, my Aunt Sandy. She moved away when I was young, but we always kept in touch and my family visited her fairly often.  I almost transferred colleges out of state to go live with her as she was reaching old age, but things didn’t work out that way. She died just six months before I got married (nine years ago). Our birthdays are only 3 days apart and often enough fell on Mother’s Day, so I always think of her at this time of year. And I always wish I could have done more.  But the truth is, she slipped away years before that, so I never really knew her as an adult.

So this is me, wishing her well in the afterlife, and laying roses at a gravestone in my mind, while I figure which one of my characters needs a charming and elderly aunt to guide her.

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trying to fit it all in

I’ve been horrible with my fitness and healthy eating plan, so I’ve finally figured out how to fix the food situation. First, no more buying food from the cafeteria at work. On Sunday, I’ll be prepping veggie and fruit containers to handle that. I have to test how long a made salad will last in an air tight container, and I have to remember to hardboil five eggs on Sunday while I’m prepping my food. I managed to eat healthy for 3 workdays this week, which happened to be the days I was able to get up earlier.  So it all ties in.

But the exercise? I’ve been walking during lunch on the nice days, but walking isn’t enough. I need a way to fit in weights and max cardio. Walking should be a bonus. Unfortunately, it looks like I’m going to have to mess with my writing schedule to fit this in. My least productive writing time is the evening session, so do I give that up to do a dvd workout after the kids go to bed? I’d still be able to fit in my reading afterward. Having the new laptop will help too – maybe I can get a half hour of writing related stuff in. I’m going to have to play with this. I was only planning on using 3 lunches a week at work for writing, the other two for fitness. I have a hard time with running a different schedule from day to day, but I think this is what I’ll have to do. Even play it by ear– if it’s a lunch workout day, then I write in the evening. If it’s a writing lunch, I work out in the evening.

The problem with that, is betwen the day job and getting the kids sorted out, the rest is kind of relfex. “It’s 8:15pm so I need to be at my computer writring”, etc. I like reflex. It’s what makes my schedule work. I think I could reduce my 8×11 weekly schedule sheet down to an index card and print it off so it’s more accessible in my purse calendar which I look at daily, rather than in my writing folder, which doesn’t come out until I sit down to write.

And the bad news is this gets adjusted 2-3 times a year based on the amount of sunlight available to drive home in after work. Which means I’d lose my after work writing time November through January.

Damn it, I need to be more flexible. 🙂 Or move someplace where the sun shines more in the winter. 😀 Better wait for the bestseller for that . . .

Full Time Working Mom of Two Makes Time for Writing (and stays sane, mostly)

I tell people I’ve been writing seriously for about ten, eleven years now. I thought I was writing seriously all those years. Granted it was a step up from hobby writing, so in that sense yes I was serious, but I’m on a whole new level of serious. Publication Serious. Getting up at 4:30 in the morning serious. I’m there.

I even have a typical schedule, created based on which activities I perform better at various times. All of this is subject to deadlines (like now, I’ve got two major short story deadliens, so ever writing session is spent working on those two stories) and also subject to family needs. My kids are too young for me to say “no this is my time”. But I plan the writing to fit into times where they aren’t around, or when they’re sleeping, or when someone can watch one or both of them for me.

My day-job dictates that Monday through Friday I work from 6;30 am to 3:00 pm, and my household responsibilites run me ragged Saturday and Sunday. Working around that:

Morning Writing: 4:30 – 5:30 Mon – Fri (novel writing / other first draft writing)

Lunch Time Writing: Tues, Thurs, and when possible Sat/Sun – short story work.

After Work: 3:45 – 4;45 (4x weekly) @ the library near daycare for (novel) revision

Evening Writing: 8:30 – 10:00 pm  (5x weekly)- “Other” = Reading, Revision, “Developement” (plan, outline, analyze for revision), Submission prep, critiques, or whatever pressing deadline needs more time.

I guess that between the kids, work issues, weather related road delays, I tend to lose about a quarter of what I planned on doing during the day. The Evening Session will help me make up for those days, hopefully.

This schedule should theoretically allow me to accomplish the following in a year: write one novel, edit one novel, and fit in several short stories. I’ll know better after this year, but I’m hoping that spending more time writing means revision will go faster than I’ve done them in the past. We’ll see.